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3 reasons why we fear leaving our comfort zone

20 June 2023
3 reasons why we fear leaving our comfort zone

Are you stuck in a situation that you know is not good for you – be it a toxic relationship or a toxic work environment – but are afraid to get out of it because it is uncomfortable?

In this blog, I (Kavitha) discuss my own struggles with this fear and what I learnt about where this fear comes from:

  1. Fear of the unknown

This is something I (Kavitha) have personally faced. I know how daunting it can be.

In 2018, I decided to quit the corporate world. For two years prior, I remember going to work feeling sick and returning home feeling sick. No matter what I did, I could not shake off the feeling.

The decision to quit was hard, I simply feared the unknown.

I had so many thoughts swimming through my mind, which took a serious toll on my mental wellness. Some thoughts were:

  • “What would my source of income be?”
  • “What am I going to do after quitting?”
  • “Is it normal for someone in their early 30’s to stop working?”
  • “What about my career progression?”
  • “What would I tell future employers, if they ask ‘why there is a gap in your CV?'”
  1. Fear of Judgment

The decision to quit did not come easy. I had to think long and hard. I was afraid of what people would say. Never mind that I was burnt out and dying inside.

People would say things to me without thinking about how their words would affect my mental wellness. They would say things like:

  • “You’re crazy, you have a small baby – if you quit how are you going to provide for him?”
  • “You’re going to dump the entire financial burden of the family on my shoulders. You need to contribute equally.”
  • “Women after having a baby are only fit to be a housewife.”
  1. Social Conditioning

This one hit me hard. I was sick and tired of doing something that stubbed my creativity and stifled authenticity. But I did not have the courage to step out. I was plagued with thoughts and comments such as:

  • “Is it right for me to pursue my passion? That’s only meant for when you retire right?”
  • “You’re selfish for quitting my job. Look, everyone is at the grind. That’s how it has always been.”
  • “When I was your age I worked hard to give you a future. Look at you, wandering like a gypsy.”
  • “Only those who have experience in business can do business. It’s a brutal world.”

Eventually, I mustered the courage and quit the corporate world. When I resigned, I had no idea what I was going to do.

But that break proved to be the best gift I ever gave myself.

It was this break that gave me the courage to start Intracresco. Now I’m doing what I enjoy. And what I do at Intracresco is way way bigger than me – it’s about creating a safe space for our clients through our mental health counselling services.

It makes me feel alive, there is a sense of purpose and direction. And I’m doing this on my own terms.

Stepping out of your comfort zone is not easy. There is fear, self-doubt, judgement (from yourself and others) and not to mention tons of questions that taunt the mind.

I feel you. I hear you. It is ok to be confused. It is ok to be doubtful. It is ok to be overwhelmed by the very thought of needing to break free – be it a toxic relationship, a habit that no longer works for you, or stepping out of a job that does not motivate you.

Learn more about how you can work with us for mental health counselling. We at Intracresco are here to support you through your journey of healing and mental wellness.

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