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Why you dislike your job – and how to find fulfilment

Relationships

Why you dislike your job – and how to find fulfilment

12 May 2023

3 ways past sexual trauma can affect your current intimate relationship

Relationships

3 ways past sexual trauma can affect your current intimate relationship

12 May 2023

3 Ways to Maintain Your Mental Wellbeing in a Toxic Environment

Emotional Wellness

3 Ways to Maintain Your Mental Wellbeing in a Toxic Environment

12 May 2023

Unexpected Things We Should Normalise In Relationships

Relationships

Unexpected Things We Should Normalise In Relationships

14 April 2023

3 Ways To Center Yourself During Internal Conflict

Emotional Wellness

3 Ways To Center Yourself During Internal Conflict

12 April 2023

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In this reel Kavitha talks about the differences b

In this reel Kavitha talks about the differences between belonging and ‘fitting-in’ and how these influence intimacy in an intimate relationship.
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Kavitha and Kester are Singapore-based therapists who help couples and individuals build thriving relationships and live more authentically. Click on the link in bio to learn more about our offerings and how to work with us.

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Many of us were taught “selfishness” is bad an

Many of us were taught “selfishness” is bad and “selflessness” is good.

In truth, every one of us has needs.

We have physical needs (e.g. rest, food, pleasure) as well as emotional needs (e.g. sense of belonging, recognition, validation, appreciation).

When we deny and disown the part of us that has these needs, to make ourselves look “selfless”, we resort to underhand means to get our needs met:

❌️ We make love transactional and conditional; we give with expectation of return.

❌️ We play victim to manipulate others into giving us attention and love.

❌️ We expect others to know what we want without us expressing it.

“Selfishness” does not mean only thinking about ourselves. It means:

💙 Understanding your own needs – both physical & emotional

💙 Loving yourself enough to express and address those needs

💙 Seeing that your needs include others – we all have the need to connect, and to be seen and valued by others

💙 Accepting and loving all parts of you – anger, trauma, pain, etc.

When we are able to do this, “selflessness” comes naturally:

✅️ We give to others not from a space of lack, but from fullness.

✅️ We receive without feeling guilty or unworthy.

✅️ We can truly empathise with others, because what we see in others (e.g. anger, judgment) we see in ourselves too. We can accept their ugly sides, because we accept our own ugly sides.

The “I” includes the “we”; and the “we” is inseparable from the “I”.

Love,

Kester

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When we have unresolved trauma, it is difficult to

When we have unresolved trauma, it is difficult to know what we really want. We end up looking for things to fill a lack.

For example, someone who felt unseen and invalidated as a child may grow up seeking validation in an extreme way. If they are drawn to singing as a career, they may seek popularity and recognition at all cost, to fill the void from their childhood. This could lead to jealousy, blind ambition, and fear of not being enough.

Someone who has gained self-awareness and self-worthiness by addressing their trauma will approach their career very differently. They will approach it from a space of genuinely enjoying what they do, and wanting to express the authentic version of themselves.

This was Kavitha's and my experience.

Before we consciously started on our healing journey, we were looking for a career that made us happy. But we did not know whether this happiness was from filling a gap in us, or from living our true purpose.

I thought I was seeking to help others because I was "selfless" and looking for meaning. But a part of me was actually seeking to feel "wanted" and "special".

It was only after intense trauma healing work that our gifts started to come through more naturally and powerfully. These gifts included the ability to hold a safe space for someone's most vulnerable parts; and to navigate and dive deep into a person’s consciousness to identify what is causing them pain.

I approach my therapy work now from a greater sense of:

💜 “This is who I am”

💜 “There is nothing else I would rather do because this feels so natural to me”

💜 “The highest way I can serve others and myself is by doing what I love"

I hope reading this helped you.

Love,
Kester
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Intracresco turns 4! What an incredible journey wi

Intracresco turns 4! What an incredible journey with many miracles and transformations.

In 2019, when Kavitha founded Intracresco, she just knew in her heart that Intracresco was way more than the humble offerings of yoga classes back in the day.

When we (Kavitha & Kester) met, we both had the shared interest in helping others find deep inner joy. But the issue was – we did not know what that meant.

We tried putting out social media posts and offerings based on what others were doing. But it did not work.

It was only when we started to connect to our authentic voices, and attune to what Intracresco herself wanted to be birthed through us, that the work started to take off.

Authenticity and community remain the core values of Intracresco.

The intention is to create a space where anyone can feel safe to be honest about who they really are and what they are really going through.

For it is only when we completely accept where we are, that we can go where we want to go.

(p.s. When the idea of writing this post came about, I (Kavitha) wanted to write a lot of things about how I felt about this journey with Intracresco – about my ups and downs. I had saved many reference posts from other accounts. But when it came to the moment of writing the post, I just found myself completely blank and just wanting to go to bed because of physical exhaustion. That’s when I reminded myself that it is okay to be true to what you are feeling in the moment. That’s what Intracresco’s essence is all about – being authentically you!)

Love,
Kavitha & Kester

What is trauma? Trauma is any experience that le

What is trauma?

Trauma is any experience that led you to feel a strong emotion that was not resolved.

Trauma is any experience that gave you certain belief systems that are now more detrimental than beneficial for you.

Trauma has both an emotional aspect, as well as a mental aspect.

It is not enough to only focus on the mental aspect (e.g. reframe your thoughts around the situation, or see it from a different perspective).

The emotional aspect of trauma is equally if not more important to address.

We cannot resolve emotions by "thinking" our way out of it. We can only resolve them with presence and love.

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"She's controlling my life!" "She doesn't let me d

"She's controlling my life!" "She doesn't let me do what I want" - these are some statements we sometimes hear from men about their partners. They say this while looking for the therapist or third party to validate that what they say is the truth and push their partner to change.

While it is easy to blame the other for being "controlling", this can distract us from seeing how our trauma makes us interpret the situation differently, and healing ourselves.

In relationships, it is both parties' responsibility to heal their own traumas.

Our romantic relationships bring up the same emotional experience as we had as children.

If one felt controlled, trapped and powerless around a feminine figure in their childhood - and this trauma was not resolved - that would be the same emotional experience they attract in their romantic relationship.

When we awaken to this fact, we start to be aware that there are many versions of the same situation - each equally valid and understandable given a person's past history.

True growth and expansion of consciousness is the ability to see, understand and hold multiple perspectives at the same time with compassion and love.

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Kavitha and Kester are Singapore-based therapists who help couples and individuals build thriving relationships and live authentically. Click on link in bio to learn more about our offerings and how to work with us.

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In this series, we introduce the various therapy m

In this series, we introduce the various therapy modalities and approaches we use at Intracresco, and explain how they bring about healing.

In this video, Kavitha talks about intergenerational trauma and why it is so important to take it into consideration in healing.

We are not born a blank slate. We are born into a certain cultural and trauma context, where we acquire our beliefs and patterns from. We can take on trauma from our family line; from the cultural / ethnic collective we belong to; from the gender group we belong to; etc.

While it is important to be aware and heal the negative patterns from our ancestors, it is equally important to celebrate and build on the positive patterns we acquired from our ancestors.

This is how each generation evolves and grow. This is what gives meaning to our challenges, as we create a better future for our next generation.

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It is common for someone who struggles with commit

It is common for someone who struggles with commitment to attract a partner who struggles with anxiety and fear of being abandoned. At a higher level, partners bring out each other's greatest fears not to make each other suffer, but to help bring awareness to each other's shortcomings so they can heal and grow to become better versions of themselves.

A common cycle such couples go through is one where one partner chases while the other runs away. The anxious partner becomes more jealous, possessive and controlling; while the other partner becomes more avoidant and reclusive.

To break this cycle, it takes at least one partner to become aware of the cycle and decide to do the inner work to change the belief systems and fears contributing to the unhealthy patterns.

To commit exclusively to someone in a romantic relationship is one of the most powerful decisions you can make in your life. Yes, it will bring up your deepest fears and insecurities but it will also bring the greatest growth, connection, and feeling of aliveness.

The reality is that there can be no love without pain. Even if you have the most perfect of relationships, there will come a time when you have to separate and there will be grief.

All relationships experience some sort of pain. The difference is how you approach it - do you bravely face it as an opportunity to open your heart into greater wisdom and love; or do you blame others for causing pain, avoid the pain, and disconnect from yourself and your partner?

In our therapy practice, we have seen couples who have gone through extremely painful life experiences and arguments. Yet, they still fight to be together because of their love for each other. That is the beauty of commitment. The best things in life are worth the risk.
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Kavitha and Kester are Singapore-based therapists who help couples and individuals build thriving relationships and live authentically. Click on link in bio to learn more about our offerings and how to work with us.

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